“They’re Only Good for One Thing”
Now Laban had two daughters; the name of the older was Leah, and the name of the younger was Rachel. Leah had weak eyes, but Rachel had a lovely figure and was beautiful. (Genesis 29:16-17 NIV)
Jacob is completely smitten with Rachel’s beauty and especially her “lovely figure”. He is so smitten that he offered to work for seven years for Rachel. When the seven years were up he tells Laban, “Give me my wife. My time is completed, and I want to make love to her.” (v 21)
God has given most men a strong sex drive, a very strong sex drive. A strong sex drive is not lust, it is a gift from God and like all divine gifts it can misused. Men behaving badly is in the news but it’s nothing new. God gave Jacob a strong sexual desire for Rachel but it wasn’t fulfilled until they were married.
Lust selfishly desires something or someone and takes it greedily at all cost as soon as possible. Love considers the interest of the other greater than their own and gives generously. (Phil 2:4)
For example, a husband can objectify his wife when he sees her as “only good for one thing”. However, a wife can objectify her husband with the same thought “he’s only good for one thing”. Anytime we detach our spouse from the “one flesh” reality of marriage, and objectify them, we perpetuate the wrong idea that marriage is made up of two autonomous people, living separate lives, for the primary purpose of my convenience, and my satisfaction.
Does a healthy husband want to have sex with his wife? Does it necessarily follow that he only sees her as a sexual object? Does a wife want her husband to care for the kids and help pay the rent? Does it necessarily follow that she only sees him as a babysitter and a bank?
Bible Thought: Love gives, lust takes.
Prayer: Father, show me the difference between love and lust. Keep me from lust and help me to truly love my spouse.
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