The Royal Wedding

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The Royal Wedding

And the angel said to me, “Write this: Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb.” And he said to me, “These are the true words of God.”  (Revelation 19:9 ESV)

The world was captivated by the Royal wedding this past weekend. It was a dazzling event filled with fanfare and celebrities. We all love weddings, admit it. Weddings fill us with hope and joy.

God loves weddings too! How do we know?

God starts the Bible with a wedding. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24)

Jesus’ first miracle was at a wedding. “Jesus also was invited to the wedding with his disciples.” (John 2:2) He attended and saved the day by turning water into wine.

God ends the Bible with a wedding, “The Marriage Supper of the Lamb” where the Bride, the church, will be united to Christ forever in Heaven. “These are the true words of God.” By the way, it’s nice to be invited to a Royal wedding but much better to be invited to this wedding!

What is a wedding? It is the public declaration of love and the beginning of a marriage. And what makes a marriage? As we learned in a previous post, it is the consummation.

A wedding is a vow before the world to love another “in good times and in bad”. The consummation after the wedding vows is the private declaration of love and loyalty. And sex each subsequent time in a marriage renews the wedding vows, the vows of love and loyalty.

Love is a verb. Love by definition requires action. We can say “I love you” but it means nothing until we put our words into action. Sex is the act of love in a marriage.

Taking out the garbage, mowing the lawn, taking the kids to soccer practice, doing the laundry, and going on a date are all acts of love however, nothing says, “I love you” louder than sex.

Sex in marriage proves you mean it when you say “I love you”. Love is not cheap. There is always a cost for love. The cost of love in marriage is setting priorities and sticking to them. Sex is the number one priority in marriage by God’s very definition of marriage, “one flesh”.

The public declaration of love in a wedding is made once. The private declaration of love is putting our initial vow of love into action – frequently. Sex is declaring our love over and over and over again.

God loves weddings, the ones on earth between a man and a woman, and the one in the future between Christ and his church. Everyone is invited to the one in Heaven. Have you accepted the invitation?

Bible Thought: A wedding is a public vow of love. Sex is the action behind the vow.

Prayer: Father, help me to remember my public declaration of love with a continual private declaration of love with my spouse. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

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An Ice Cream Sundae Marriage

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This is Part 4 of a five part series based on the “5 False Assumptions about Married Sex”.

False Assumption #4: We say sex is one of many elements that make up a happy marriage. God says sex is the first priority of a happy marriage.

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24 ESV)

It’s easy to get the impression from the culture and the church that marriage is like an ice cream sundae made up of lots of good things like friendship, shared interests, careers, and kids with sex as the cherry on top.

God says sex is not the cherry on top, it’s the dish that holds the ice cream sundae.

We talk about communication, selflessness, perseverance, spiritual maturity, and other lofty elements as the essentials of a biblical marriage. God defines marriage in terms of a physical union.

God’s definition of marriage is “one flesh”. He could have described marriage as “one soul” or “one mind” as in “they shall become one mind” but he didn’t. Some experts tell us the Hebrew word means more than a physical union.

However, Jesus says, “‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh.” (Matthew 19 5,6a ESV)

Jesus was having a discussion with the Pharisees about marriage and divorce. Jesus highlights the seriousness of divorce by revealing what God thinks about marriage. He seems to be saying, “How can you separate ‘one flesh’?”

He quotes Genesis 2:24 directly and then adds his own take, “So they are no longer two but one flesh” as if to remind the Pharisees of the essence of marriage. Whenever Jesus says the same thing twice in a row, he considers it important, very important. The Greek word “flesh” means “flesh, physical body, human nature”.

Is marriage more than a physical union? Of course, the mystery of “one flesh” extends beyond sexual union to leaving and cleaving and building a separate family. But “one flesh” is the picture of marriage God gives us and we ignore this divine emphasis to our own marital peril.

Bible Thought: Sex is the cup that holds the ice cream sundae. Drop the cup and you have a mess to clean up.

Prayer: Father, help me to make you my first priority with my spouse next. Help me to understand what makes up a biblical marriage for your glory. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

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