The Only Reason to Get Married
False Assumption #1: We say we got married because we were in love, best friends, and wanted to build a life together (and so many other reasons). God says sex is the only reason you need to get married.
Authors’ Note: The “5 False Assumptions about Married Sex” from a previous post each take an entire chapter in our book. We are reducing 4,000 words to 300 words for each meditation so we are only touching on a few highlights. Even though God’s Word is relatively straightforward, we understand sex is complicated. The application of God’s Word on married sex can take a while. Be patient, trust God. Pray.
Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. (1 Corinthians 7:1,2 ESV)
The quote in verse 1 is from the hyper-spiritual, gnostic, faction at Corinth that taught sexual self-control was the holier way. After all, Christianity is a spiritual religion that renounces all things of the flesh. Right?
Paul exposes their wrong thinking by pointing out our extreme sexual weakness and, then, stating clearly that the antidote to sexual temptation is not abstinence, but the very opposite. Paul, in effect, says “Stop spiritualizing everything! The physical is not evil.”
Paul then says that if you’re struggling with sexual temptation then get married. Marriage is God’s only solution to sexual temptation and the primary reason to get married. There are many reasons why people get married but if one person gets married to overcome sexual temptation and other person gets married for any other reason then that’s a problem.
“But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.” This is a message to men and women, equally.
The opposite is also true; that is, if you don’t suffer from sexual temptation then don’t get married. Paul goes on to say that a single person can serve the Lord wholeheartedly but a married person must be concerned about serving their spouse. (See 1 Corinthians 7:32-35 ESV)
Sex is the only reason to get married, or more accurately, the only reason you need to get married as a Christian. You can do everything as an unmarried couple, that you can do as a married couple, except have sex according to the Bible.
Think about it. You can be best friends, enjoy shared interests, go on dates, and laugh at each other’s jokes. You can even be roommates and raise a family by adopting children. You can do it all without being married. Sex is the only reason to get married as Christians.
Bible Thought: God loves the physical; after all, he made the earth and all things in it. “God saw all that He had made, and behold, it was very good.” (See Genesis 1:31a NASB)
Prayer: Father, you made all things including sex between a husband and wife and declared it as “very good”. Help me to see sex as “very good” like you do. Amen.
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