Joyfully Stuck!

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Joyfully Stuck!

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24 ESV)

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Krazy Glue is ethyl cyanoacrylate – “a non-toxic, colorless, extremely fast-acting, strong adhesive. It can lift 2000 pounds per square inch” according to the company website. It is one of the fastest acting and strongest glues available. But it takes a “trigger” to activate its stickiness; that trigger is water which is found on nearly every surface in the world.

Marriage is the strongest and closest of all human relationships. And, like Krazy Glue, it requires a catalyst to activate the adhesive properties. The catalyst for a marriage is physical intimacy – the first time to consummate the marriage and each subsequent time to reinforce the bond.

(No Sex, No Marriage was our first post ever which talks about how the consummation makes the marriage not the wedding, vows, or witnesses. Check it out.)

The Hebrew word for “hold fast”, “cleave” in KJV, is a term used elsewhere in the Bible to describe the sticky quality of a covenant relationship. It means “being intertwined” or “stuck together”. It has the idea of two pieces of paper being glued together. If you try to separate the papers after the glue has dried, you just end up with a shredded mess.

God defines marriage as “stuck” together as in “one flesh”. These are the two principle elements of marriage after “leaving” parents.

Hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (Emphasis added)

In other words, once married you are stuck to each other. This is more than a physical oneness, there is a spiritual oneness also, although God highlights the physical connection to illustrate the spiritual connection. (See 1 Corinthians 6:16-20)

Stuck for Life

Once we realize the “stuckness” of our relationship, we understand that this is for life as in “for better or worse, ’til death do us part”. We now have a choice to stay stuck joyfully or to stay stuck miserably or something in-between. The choice is ours.

God, through his definition of marriage, is telling us that the satisfaction in marriage is not necessarily tied to what we would normally think in our modern times. We think a satisfying marriage requires —— fill in the blank. God says a satisfying marriage is leaving, cleaving, and physical and spiritual intimacy.

The question then becomes: How can we stay stuck together joyfully? Well, here’s three ideas around God’s definition of marriage – leave, cleave, physical and spiritual intimacy.

  1. Consider your relationship with your spouse as your number one priority in life because the relationship between a husband and a wife is the closest human relationship on earth. Do not put any relationship above your spouse including your parents, children, or other family members.
  2. “Hold fast” to your spouse with all your might because you are stuck with each other for life. This is good thing. It’s an intentional God thing. He meant it for your joy and his glory so hang on and enjoy life together.
  3. Consider physical intimacy, as not only one element of God’s definition of marriage, but also God’s instruction to keep the relationship stuck together for life.

Marriage either thrives or dies or stays the same. God wants us to thrive in marriage, and in life, by agreeing with his Word and trusting him to help us through the rough patches.

Stay stuck – joyfully!

Bible Thought: God wants us to be joyfully stuck to our spouse.

Prayer: Father, help me to define marriage as you define marriage. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

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Rene & Gloria

“I Do” Means “I Will”

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The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. (1 Corinthians 7:3,4 ESV)

Remember saying, “I do”?

Did any of us understand the sexual implications of that promise on our wedding day? Certainly not many, and not fully, we suspect. We didn’t.

The moment you said “I do” you gave up a lot of your rights and took on a lot of responsibilities by your own free will. Your conjugal rights became your spouse’s responsibility and your spouse’s conjugal rights became your responsibility.

When you get married, in effect, you lay aside many of your rights and take up many responsibilities for your spouse. Primarily, you became responsible for your spouse’s sex life when you said “I do”. Whoa, I didn’t plan on that!

For example, the moment you are brought into the Kingdom by God, you are no longer your own but bought with a price by the shed blood of Jesus. (See 1 Corinthians 6:19,20 ESV) In a similar way, the moment you said “I do”, you are no longer your own.

“For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.” You are now part of a unique union called “one flesh” by God.

At the moment of your vow, and subsequent consummation, your body was united to our spouse’s body in “one flesh”. This is your new status.

Your status was “single” but now your status is “one flesh” from God’s perspective.

Each spouse is now responsible, not only for their own body, but for their lover’s body as well. On the other side, each spouse now freely surrenders their body to their spouse in fulfillment of their wedding vow, “I do!”.

The responsibility now is to nourish and encourage each other, never to put down or abuse.

Giving control of your body to someone else is not natural, it is supernatural! We can’t do this on our own. We need Jesus and his gospel. Be patient, pray and trust God.

Bible Thought: The moment you said, “I do”, you gave up many rights and took on many responsibilities.

Prayer: Father, help me to fulfill my responsibilities toward my spouse with kindness and love. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

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