God Sees Us as One

27527817 - decorative owl. tribal pattern. ethnic tattoo. vector illustration.So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. (Ephesians 5:28-31 KJV)

Sex Feels Good and is Good for You!

Type “Health Benefits of Sex” into Google and you get 618 million results. It’s well documented that there are many health benefits of sex and more are discovered seemingly every day. It’s exactly like God to design something that feels good and is good for you!

Here’s one of many health benefits God built into sex according to a recent WebMD article:

“Bonds You to Your Partner – The hormone oxytocin is released during sex, and it sparks feelings of intimacy, affection, and closeness with your partner. That helps build a strong, stable relationship, which is good for everyone.”


God goes beyond bonding to bonded. When you’re married, God no longer sees you as two individuals only but now you are bonded as “one flesh”. It’s not like you morphed into a hybrid being like in a sci-fi movie but your status has changed from “individual” to “couple”.

As a married couple, if you hate your wife, you are actually hating yourself. Paul tells husbands to love your wife because your wife is your “own flesh”. He illustrates the point by revealing we are members of Christ’s body – “of his flesh, and of his bones”. There is a spiritual as well as physical aspect our marriage relationship. In fact, Pauls reveals that marital intimacy reflects Christ and his church.

God Sees Us as One

We are rugged individuals, captains of our own ship, and makers of our own destiny. Marriage, our culture tells us, is two individuals coming together for the purpose of supporting each other’s aspirations. We help one another along life’s journey but remain two individuals. Sex is healthy but nothing beyond physical.

God sees us as one. When one is blessed then both are blessed. When one is gifted then both are gifted. When one is hurting then both are hurting. When you yell at your wife, you are yelling at yourself. Paul tells us not to hate our wives because it’s the same as hating ourselves and no one hates themselves.

What we do to the other, we do to ourselves. If we hurt the other, we hurt ourselves. If we love the other, we love ourselves. If we deny sex to the other then we deny sex to ourselves and all its benefits.

Beyond Health Benefits of Sex

Bonding, as we have seen, is one of the many health benefits of sex. Other health benefits of sex include sharper minds, stronger immune system, more energy, pain relief, loss of weight, lower stress, longer life, and better sleep.

When we deny or limit sex to our spouse, then we are not only denying the many health benefits of sex but we are eroding the bond that God wants sex to create in his “one flesh” masterpiece called marriage.

Bible Thought: There are many benefits to sex and we hurt ourselves if we deny or limit sex to our spouse.

Prayer: Father, help me to properly understand the benefits of sex for my marriage. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

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Just do it,

Rene & Gloria