Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24 ESV)
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Krazy Glue is ethyl cyanoacrylate – “a non-toxic, colorless, extremely fast-acting, strong adhesive. It can lift 2000 pounds per square inch” according to the company website. It is one of the fastest acting and strongest glues available. But it takes a “trigger” to activate its stickiness; that trigger is water which is found on nearly every surface in the world.
Marriage is the strongest and closest of all human relationships. And, like Krazy Glue, it requires a catalyst to activate the adhesive properties. The catalyst for a marriage is physical intimacy – the first time to consummate the marriage and each subsequent time to reinforce the bond.
(No Sex, No Marriage was our first post ever which talks about how the consummation makes the marriage not the wedding, vows, or witnesses. Check it out.)
The Hebrew word for “hold fast”, “cleave” in KJV, is a term used elsewhere in the Bible to describe the sticky quality of a covenant relationship. It means “being intertwined” or “stuck together”. It has the idea of two pieces of paper being glued together. If you try to separate the papers after the glue has dried, you just end up with a shredded mess.
God defines marriage as “stuck” together as in “one flesh”. These are the two principle elements of marriage after “leaving” parents.
“Hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (Emphasis added)
In other words, once married you are stuck to each other. This is more than a physical oneness, there is a spiritual oneness also, although God highlights the physical connection to illustrate the spiritual connection. (See 1 Corinthians 6:16-20)
Stuck for Life
Once we realize the “stuckness” of our relationship, we understand that this is for life as in “for better or worse, ’til death do us part”. We now have a choice to stay stuck joyfully or to stay stuck miserably or something in-between. The choice is ours.
God, through his definition of marriage, is telling us that the satisfaction in marriage is not necessarily tied to what we would normally think in our modern times. We think a satisfying marriage requires —— fill in the blank. God says a satisfying marriage is leaving, cleaving, and physical and spiritual intimacy.
The question then becomes: How can we stay stuck together joyfully? Well, here’s three ideas around God’s definition of marriage – leave, cleave, physical and spiritual intimacy.
- Consider your relationship with your spouse as your number one priority in life because the relationship between a husband and a wife is the closest human relationship on earth. Do not put any relationship above your spouse including your parents, children, or other family members.
- “Hold fast” to your spouse with all your might because you are stuck with each other for life. This is good thing. It’s an intentional God thing. He meant it for your joy and his glory so hang on and enjoy life together.
- Consider physical intimacy, as not only one element of God’s definition of marriage, but also God’s instruction to keep the relationship stuck together for life.
Marriage either thrives or dies or stays the same. God wants us to thrive in marriage, and in life, by agreeing with his Word and trusting him to help us through the rough patches.
Stay stuck – joyfully!
Bible Thought: God wants us to be joyfully stuck to our spouse.
Prayer: Father, help me to define marriage as you define marriage. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
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Rene & Gloria