Attitude is Everything

Attitude is Everything

The Song of Songs, which is Solomon’s.
Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth!
(Song of Solomon 1:1,2a ESV)

The first thing we notice in this love poem is the wife’s enthusiasm for her husband. She is on fire for his love! She can’t seem to contain her excitement for his perfect kisses, “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth!”. Her attitude springs from sex-positive thoughts about her husband.

Attitude is Everything

William James, the 19th century American philosopher stated, “The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes.” Attitude is everything. As Christians, we can state with confidence that the closer our attitudes align with God’s attitudes the more joyful we will be in this life. In fact, our attitude largely determines what we get from this life. Let’s take on God’s attitude about everything especially marital intimacy.

If your attitude is sex-positive then you’re on your way to enjoying sexual intimacy, and if your spouse’s attitude is sex-positive, then you both can celebrate God’s gift of sex equally. However, if your attitude, or your spouse’s attitude, is otherwise then there’s a lot of work to do. But it’s worth the effort to align your attitude with God’s attitude toward marital sex.

3 Sex-Positive Attitudes

Three things stand out to us in this passage:

  1. She is the aggressor. This woman is no wilting flower waiting for her husband to make the first move. She knows her joy is in the arms of her husband and she is determined to make it happen – the sooner the better.
  2. She is enthusiastic. Our protagonist is so excited about his kisses she doesn’t seem to care what people might think as she declares before the world that her lover is a good kisser.
  3. She is thankful. She seems extremely thankful for her husband. She is confident that her husband wants to reciprocate her affection. She isn’t afraid of his rejection; in fact, it apparently never even enters her mind.

The Reality

This love poem, and poetry in general, uses figurative language to express emotion, truth, and beauty. The Song of Songs paints us a picture of an ideal biblical marriage. We will see later in the poem that everything is not bliss. Our lovers have a Big Misunderstanding in chapter 5 and have to overcome a common marital misconception about sex. Don’t worry, we will get to this reality of married life, but for now let’s enjoy the enthusiasm of our protagonist and smile that she loves to kiss.

Do you love to kiss? Change your attitude about kissing and see how kissing is better than you remembered. Go ahead, try it 🙂

Bible Thought: God’s Word celebrates sexual intimacy, including great kissing, in marriage.

Prayer: Father, help me to change my attitude toward kissing and align myself with God’s attitude toward sexual intimacy. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

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Rene & Gloria