And I will lead the blind
in a way that they do not know,
in paths that they have not known
I will guide them.
I will turn the darkness before them into light,
the rough places into level ground.
These are the things I do,
and I do not forsake them. (Isaiah 42:16 ESV)
Cultural and Religious Preconceptions Limit Us
Technology is daunting when we first encounter it. Perhaps you had to learn a new software program for your job. We remember our companies preparing us for months in advance for new software. Everyone was in a panic but once it rolled out, and we got used to it, we never gave it a second thought.
Changing our sexual habits is daunting. We’ve grown accustomed to our sexual patterns like an old pair of slippers. It’s safe and comfortable. We have unspoken rules about sex, frequency and reciprocity, in our marriage. So when we understand God’s Word has specific directives for married sex, we tend to deny or ignore them. We fall back on our cultural and religious preconceptions about married sex.
A Disciple of Jesus Expects & Embraces Change
However, being a disciple of Jesus, we know, requires constant reassessment of our habits and patterns. Jesus always calls us out of our comfort zones and into uncomfortable places such as witnessing to our neighbors, feeding the hungry at the homeless shelter, or giving up a long time habit. It’s the same with our marriage and especially our sex lives.
When we understand God’s Word and realize we have to change, it takes us by surprise. But as a disciple we desire to do life God’s way and know there’s always good in obedience. “Whoever gives thought to the word will discover good, and blessed is he who trusts in the Lord.” (Proverbs 16:20) We want to have a marriage that reflects the Word even if it’s uncomfortable.
Changing our sexual habits can be uncomfortable for many reasons but we are called to overcome all obstacles and get out of our comfort zones. There is a cost to following Jesus and marriage God’s way is no exception. Jesus calls us to a place of humility, surrender, and love in marriage and that means frequent and reciprocal sex. (See The Principles of Marriage ESV)
Principles of Marriage
God wants us to understand the Principles of Marriage and practice them regularly. It requires us to get out of our comfort zones and into God’s place of obedience. The good news is that he will guide us and “turn the darkness before (us) into light, the rough places into level ground.” The Holy Spirit will comfort us when we get uncomfortable in the places he sends us. Trust him.
Bible Thought: God wants us to get uncomfortable for our good and his glory.
Prayer: Father, help me to get out of my usual areas of comfort. Help me to put my spouse first even when it’s uncomfortable. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
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Just do it,
Rene & Gloria