“I Now Pronounce You Best Friends Forever!”

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When Rachel saw that she bore Jacob no children, she envied her sister. She said to Jacob, “Give me children, or I shall die!” Jacob’s anger was kindled against Rachel, and he said, “Am I in the place of God, who has withheld from you the fruit of the womb?” (Genesis 30:1,2 ESV)

The officiant of your wedding probably didn’t declare at the end of the ceremony, “I now pronounce you BFF’s!” but many anniversary posts suggest otherwise.

Anyone who has been married a while understands that your spouse can be your best friend one moment and your worst enemy the next. Jacob was intoxicated with Rachel and waited 7 years (actually 14) to “make love” to her and “they seemed like only a few days to him because of his love for her.” (Gen 29:20b ESV)

In the very next chapter, they seem to loathe one another. “Jacob’s anger was kindled against Rachel”. Rachel wasn’t much better. What happened? They had the dreaded “sex conversation”. “Give me children, or I shall die!” Granted, it wasn’t the usual modern sex discussion about frequency or reciprocity. It was more, “You’re doing something wrong in the bedroom!” Jacob took exception.

As we saw in yesterday’s post, marriage is an exclusive, covenant relationship unlike any other. Friendship is wonderful, and hopefully, you and your spouse exhibit the traits of best friends – love, respect, loyalty.

Please don’t be offended with our BFF fun. We understand why you post, “I married my best friend!” But let’s not forget our spouse is our covenant partner first and foremost. The covenant was sealed with sex in the beginning and is renewed with each subsequent encounter.

When we don’t have frequent sex with our spouse, our covenant relationship fades into a distant, foggy memory. Each sexual encounter reminds us of our exclusive relationship. Sadly, we tend to forget quickly!

Bible Thought: Frequent sex with our spouse reminds us of our exclusive, covenant relationship.

Prayer: Father, you created marriage and sex. Help me to dig into the Word and discover what you say about marriage and sex. Amen.

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