No Sex, No Marriage
Then Jacob said to Laban, “Give me my wife. My time is completed, and I want to make love to her.” So Laban brought together all the people of the place and gave a feast. But when evening came, he took his daughter Leah and brought her to Jacob, and Jacob made love to her. When morning came, there was Leah! So Jacob said to Laban, “What is this you have done to me? I served you for Rachel, didn’t I? Why have you deceived me?” Laban replied, “It is not our custom here to give the younger daughter in marriage before the older one.” (Genesis 29:21-23,25,26 NIV)
Jacob made love to Leah and, Voila!, they were married. He didn’t try to persuade Laban to take Leah back. Jacob understood sex sealed the deal.
Everyone knows, and has since the beginning of time, that the consummation makes a marriage, not the engagement, vows, rings, or ceremonies. Sex does and only sex. In fact, you can get married, and live together for years, but if you never had sex no one considers you really married – church, society, or God.
In times past, Kings and Queens were subjected to a public consummation event at the end of the marriage ceremony to assure it was a “real” marriage. The political powers wanted to make sure the marriage alliance was not a sham.
Paul calls the physical union of a man and a woman a “profound mystery” because it’s God’s metaphor for the union of Christ and his followers. (See Eph 5:31,32) This speaks primarily to the covenant element of both relationships but that’s for another post.
Bible Thought: Sex is much more than a physical union.
Prayer: Father, help me to understand your purpose for sex in my marriage. Amen.
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